"Are you sick and tired of being angry, and annoyed with the world?"

It is a well-documented fact /theory that anger is one of the steps of healing from trauma and loss.

It is part of the grief Process.

Grief after the death of a loved one.

Grief for the demise of your marriage.

Grief for the loss of the job or career,

Grief for the breaking of trust.

I was angry.

After 30 years of marriage, I was alone.

Don’t get me wrong. I chose to leave.

I tried, and I tried and I tried for connection and trust. I tried for many years.

And eventually, I realized that I was never going to be understood and loved the way I needed to be understood and loved. So, I gave up. I distanced myself.

And after a while, I came to a point where the holidays to exotic places, the promises of cars and my own home that I had renovated with love, were not enough to fill the void in my heart.

I had to start again.

Over the previous 30 years, I engaged people in drama, my drama. I’d complain about how things were but then I’d never do anything about the situation. I thought I had no power.

And once I left. I continued to engage others in my drama. I didn’t move on. I didn’t take responsibility I continued to blame others. I continued to talk to well-meaning friends and loved ones and counselors. I wasn’t getting anywhere. I was angry at the circumstance. I was angry at my ex. I was angry at life. And I was getting myself into a cycle of not doing anything about it. Wanting to justify my position.

Then I discovered coaching. And one of my mentors broke open my mind by telling me. “That I am  responsible for every decision I have made in my adult life.”

 I was in shock. I was taken aback. I was terrified that everything that had happened was my fault. No! he reassured me. “Taking responsibility is not about Fault. It is about being an adult and making changes.” After a while, I realized that if I didn’t start driving my own bus, I was going to end up, repeating the past.

So I started to work on the conditioning of the past and the way I looked at my world. I changed the way I thought about myself. I realized that I am WORTHY, LOVEABLE, and ENOUGH just the way I am. I learned that I can only love others as much as I love myself.

Now I love myself. And I am loved. I’m empowered to make my own decisions. I’m empowered to make my own mistakes and grow just a little bit every day.

Create a Life where  You will Live with  ACCEPTANCE CALM RESPONSIBILITY BELONGING & LOVE 

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